Q&A - Week 1, Part 2

Question

Is it true that using a....um..... vibrator ::whispers:: too often can cause you to lose sensitivity.......down there?

Name Withheld


Khar says: This is actually quite a loaded question, and I suppose it depends on what you'd call "too often". There's no harm is using a vibrator five days a week, if you desire to. The main problem that lies with vibrators isn't losing sensitivity or using them too often, it's prolonged contact and causing nerve and muscular damage in the pelvic region, most often around the clitoris. This can cause a burning sensation, a sharp stabbing feeling, tingling, and itching. It doesn't feel pretty, I can assure you of that.

Prolonged use, or pressing against one area too hard or too long, can cause nerve inflammation and damage, which can be a long term problem that requires medical treatment. Many women who suffer this are too embarrassed to seek medical intervention because of the source problem, but it is a fixable situation and you can find relief with physical therapy and drug treatment. Nerves will settle and heal with time, but it can sometimes take years for things to be restored depending on the severity of the damage.

The easiest way to avoid this, regardless of if you use your vibrator once a month or multiple times a week, is to make sure you do NOT press too hard. Yes, sometimes we get carried away and get into it and it feels good and we're tempted to press hard directly on the clit, because frankly the shit can create intense orgasms. But you need to be careful, because those areas are sensitive and needed to be treated as so. Don't press too hard, and don't hold the vibe in one spot for a long time.

Now that I got that out of the way, I want to say that vibrators are WONDERFUL and don't let 'what if's stop you from utilizing them, because ANYTHING, if used incorrectly, can cause you damage. If you follow some basic safety rules, most of which is simply common sense, vibrators are harmless. And remember, if it starts to burn during use or gets too intense, stop before you push yourself too far. Many of us who use vibrators, whether we admit it or not, have encountered a situation where we 'overdid' it and the next day (or for a few days afterward) the clit in overly sensitive, maybe even painful until it heals up.

Don't let it discourage you from vibe play every day, if that's what floats your boat. Just remember to respect your lady parts ladies, and listen to your bodies and never press too hard or too long.





Nan says: Surprisingly, there is not a lot of information to be had on the use of vibrators. It’s probably something that the medical community should start researching though. From everything I’ve ever heard or learned, normal vibrator use should not cause long term damage. Of course, normal use can cause temporary numbness, but generally feeling returns shortly after.

Think about it this way… the clitoris is a very sensitive part of your body. It’s covered by a thin hood of skin that’s also very sensitive. Neither of these parts of your body generally sees the sun, nor do they generally have any contact with anything other than your pants or your panties. So any kind of stimulation directly to the clitoris is going to affect it.

Now, we need to define ‘normal use’ of a vibrator. Using your vibrator even as many as five times during a week shouldn’t hurt you. What CAN possibly hurt you is how long you’re using your vibe. Anything in excess of 30 minutes or so runs the risk of causing serious damage.
The most important thing to remember when using any kind of toy is to properly clean your toy before and after each and every use. I would imagine that most cases of nerve damage have less to do with the use of the vibrator and more to do with the germs and bacteria growing on a vibrator that are then introduced to the vagina and the clitoris.

Even if you are the only person to you your vibrator (and sharing is generally not recommended) you can still get an infection from it. Most vibrators are made of a jelly like material that’s very porous. Even an anti-bacterial soap isn’t going to properly clean your toys because the soap can get stuck in the pores. A good toy cleaner (available at any adult novelty store or online) is highly recommended to clean your toy. The consistency of the cleaner assures that there will be no leftover residue and it has been formulated to not damage your toy.

Before and after use, you should always spritz your toy generously with an appropriate toy cleaner and let it set for about 30 seconds before rinsing thoroughly and patting dry with a paper towel. The correct kind of lube is also important when using toys. Silicone based lubricants can damage your toy by breaking down the outer jelly-like covering. Water based lubricants are suggested with silicone toys.

For further information, please follow these links:
http://www.emandlo.com/2009/03/dr-kate-bad-vibrations/
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Sexuality--Relationships/vibrators-and-sensitivity/show/262358






Conclusion: Bottom line, if you respect your toys and your body (most importantly your clit) using a vibrator is actually very healthy for you. The endorphins caused from an orgasm can do wonders for you. It can do anything from curing a headache to clearing out your sinuses. The afterglow of the orgasm also leaves you in a euphoric state, which is a much more natural cure for minor depression.

Khar and Nan use vibes responsibly and encourage you to do so as well. Another four enthusiastic tits up from us.







another question of concern

After reading your welcome note, I was struck with the realization that I am a bit lost...not that this is something unusual.

Inquiring minds must know..what the fuck is a DONKEY PUNCH...and why would I EVER want my husband to do it.?

More importantly....how do i keep myself from knocking the fuck out of him if he tried it...?
Just some basic thoughts...

Thanks,
Jenny


Khar says: I wanna get serious for a moment (yeah, I'm sorry, it comes from working with doctors) and say first and foremost, donkey punches are no joke. A donkey punch can result in serious harm and is potentially lethal. A blow to the back of the head can cause severe trauma... memory loss, pain, bleeding within the skull, sensory deficits, or neck injury. The neck injury could be severe to the point of it causing a fracture (aka a broken neck), which could lead to paralysis and death. All from something that medical professionals will tell you doesn't even work, because there is no definitive link between blunt force trauma to the head and the involuntarily tightening of the anus.

So essentially, you're assaulting a woman (or man, if that's your thing) and risking seriously harming them on the off chance that you don't knock them the fuck out with the blow and they'll accidentally tense up so make your orgasm feel better. Yeah... perfect sense guys. I assure you if you do it, you're going to wind up behind bars and some guy will likely try it out on you, because even the most hardened criminals are disgusted by sex offenders and women beaters (and you'll be classified as both after pulling a 'donkey punch')

Theoretically, they're fun to talk about. There are even different types of donkey punches, such as the Brass Donkey Punch (using brass knuckles) and the Atomic Donkey Punch (using an aluminum bat for the blow), which are even more harmful. And, of course, there's the never ending debate as to whether or not it has to be ass play, or if simply fucking the pussy doggystyle and punching them in the back of the head can be construed as a 'Donkey Punch'. I suppose it's like the chicken and the egg, or how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop. One will likely never know the answer.






Nan says: Donkey punch, eh? The banner must have people thinking… and you’re either thinking ‘What the fuck is wrong with these girls’ or ‘Holy hell, I’ve always wanted to know that!’ Either way, you’ll get your answer now.

A donkey punch is a horrible thing. It’s very nearly assault. During anal sex, the fucker would punch the fuckee in the back of the head right before ejaculation. This (theoretically) causes the anal cavity to tighten up in response and makes the orgasm much more enjoyable for the fucker.
First of all, what the fuck is up with hitting people in the back of the head during sex? Dragons, and now donkeys too, involve hitting people in the head. I’d avoid any of these fucking animals at all costs if I were you.

In answer to your question, no you would NOT want your lover to do this to you. Ever. And if he does, please knock him the fuck out for me too. That’s just so many different kinds of wrong it’s not even funny. Maybe give him a taste of his own medicine.

So if your sexual partner donkey punches you without your consent, like you’d consent to that anyway, here’s what you do… First, you’ll want to wait until they’re asleep. Then I want you to take something roughly the size of a dick and shove it up his ass. There will be no need for lube because you’re proving a point here. When the asshole starts bucking, punch him in the back of the fucking head and ask him how he likes it. I can guarantee one thing… he’ll never do it again.





Conclusion: Donkey Punch = EPIC FAIL. In fact, it’s SO epically fucking fail we give it four saggy ass titties WAY down. And on a side note – don’t take Nan’s advice for revenge as it was just added for humor’s sake. If you really do get Donkey Punched, you’d be better off contacting law enforcement and pressing assault charges.